Take our 15-question quiz and find out if your Friendship is worth saving. Friendship betrayal is one of the hardest pills to swallow, especially when it involves a toxic ex or someone who has deeply hurt you. When a friend cozies up to your toxic ex, a.k.a. the person who mistreated you, it’s natural to feel confused, hurt, and betrayed. Regardless of whether she is now dating him after supporting you through the break-up, is this friendship worth salvaging? Or has she made the toxic people in your life list and has to go? Whether you’re dealing with frenemies or toxic friends, this quiz will help you figure out whether it’s just a bump in the road or a sign that it’s time to move on from toxic people who no longer serve your well-being.

We’ve all heard the phrase “Bros before Hoes,” the unspoken code among men, emphasizing loyalty and camaraderie. The idea is straightforward—dating or getting close to your best friend’s toxic ex is never okay. You’d think the same applies to friendships, where loyalty means some people should automatically be off-limits. “Girl code” is rooted in trust, loyalty, and a sisterhood that guarantees we support each other, especially during tough times like breakups. It’s that unbreakable bond where you know your friends will have your back—whether by removing toxic exes or offering emotional support when needed.

Two women friends take 15 question quiz on what make a good quality friendship

This connection thrives on shared values of empathy, respect, and mutual care. So when someone crosses that boundary—like befriending an ex who hurt you—it feels like a profound betrayal of the trust you’ve built. As Jane Fonda puts it, “Women’s friendships are a source of power, the glue that holds a community together.” True sisterhood is about lifting one another and showing respect, which is why it cuts so profoundly when that trust is broken.

“Women’s friendships are a source of power, the glue that holds a community together.”

Jane Fonda

Quiz: Is This Friendship Worth Saving After Betrayal? 💔

Hey there, savvy ladies! 🦸‍♀️ Ever been in a situation where your BFF cozies up to someone who hurt you? It’s hard to know if you’re overreacting or if this friendship deserves a serious re-evaluation. This quiz will help you determine how bad the betrayal is. Each question gets you closer to figuring out if this friendship is salvageable or if it’s time to move on—temporarily or for good.

Score key:
0-40: Just a bump in the road, but maybe worth addressing.
41-70: Questionable territory. It’s time to set some serious boundaries.
71-100: 🚩 Red flag alert! You may need to reconsider this friendship.

Let’s dive in!

1. When your friend started hanging out with your ex, did she let you know first?

  • A) She gave me a heads-up before it happened.
  • B) She casually mentioned it later.
  • C) She didn’t tell me—I found out through others.
  • D) I still don’t know how often they hang out.

2. How did you feel when you found out about their friendship?

  • A) Annoyed but not devastated.
  • B) Confused and uncomfortable.
  • C) Hurt and betrayed.
  • D) Absolutely furious.

3. Did she support you emotionally during your breakup?

  • A) She was my rock through it all.
  • B) She was there, but a little distant.
  • C) Her support was inconsistent.
  • D) She seemed to check out when things got tough.

4. How has her behavior changed since befriending your ex?

  • A) She’s been acting the same.
  • B) She’s a little distant but still my friend.
  • C) She’s more focused on him than on me.
  • D) It feels like we’re not friends anymore.

5. Do you think your ex manipulated the situation to get closer to her?

  • A) No, it’s unlikely.
  • B) Maybe, but I’m not sure.
  • C) It’s possible; he’s done things like this before.
  • D) Absolutely, he’s that type of person.

6. Have you tried talking to her about your feelings?

  • A) Yes, and she understood my perspective.
  • B) Yes, but she didn’t take it seriously.
  • C) I haven’t brought it up because I’m scared.
  • D) I tried, but she dismissed my concerns.

7. Does she respect your boundaries when it comes to discussing your ex?

  • A) She avoids the topic when I ask.
  • B) She occasionally slips up but means well.
  • C) She talks about him, even when I ask her not to.
  • D) She brings him up all the time and ignores my feelings.

8. How often does she initiate contact with your ex?

  • A) Rarely, if at all.
  • B) Occasionally, but it seems innocent.
  • C) It’s becoming more frequent.
  • D) They talk or hang out regularly.

9. Has she been there for you in other ways recently?

  • A) Yes, she’s still a great friend overall.
  • B) Sometimes, but not as much as before.
  • C) She’s become distant overall.
  • D) She hasn’t been there for me at all.

10. Do you feel like she values her friendship with him more than with you?

  • A) Not at all, we’re still close.
  • B) It feels pretty equal.
  • C) I’m starting to feel sidelined.
  • D) She clearly prioritizes him over me.

11. If roles were reversed, would you ever befriend someone who hurt her?

  • A) No way, girl code forever!
  • B) I’d consider it but tread lightly.
  • C) I might, but I’d make sure she was okay with it first.
  • D) I probably would if it suited me.

12. How does she respond when you talk about how hurt you are?

  • A) She listens and validates my feelings.
  • B) She says she understands but doesn’t change her actions.
  • C) She tries to downplay it.
  • D) She ignores or dismisses my emotions.

13. Do you trust her as much as you did before this?

  • A) 100%—nothing’s changed.
  • B) I still trust her but I’m cautious.
  • C) My trust is fading.
  • D) I don’t trust her at all anymore.

14. Has she acted like this in other situations, or is this a one-off?

  • A) This is the first time anything like this has happened.
  • B) There have been small issues in the past.
  • C) She’s had some questionable behavior before.
  • D) This is part of a pattern of betrayal.

15. Do you think she understands the concept of “girl code”?

  • A) Absolutely, she lives by it.
  • B) She has her own version of it.
  • C) She doesn’t seem to get it.
  • D) She probably doesn’t believe in it.

Answer Key & Scoring:

For each answer, give yourself the following points:

  • A) 0 points
  • B) 2 points
  • C) 5 points
  • D) 8 points

Your score:

  • 0-40 points: This might just be a communication issue. Try having an honest conversation with her about how you’re feeling.
  • 41-70 points: Things are definitely rocky. You need to set clear boundaries and see how she responds. It may be time to rethink the friendship if she’s dismissive or continues her behavior.
  • 71-100 points: 🚨 Huge red flags! This friendship is no longer serving you, and it may be time to consider stepping back, whether temporary or permanent.

Behavior Science Insight:

According to behavioral science, people often prioritize their social comfort over others’ emotional well-being, a cognitive bias known as heuristics. Research by Dr. David Buss highlights that betrayal from a close friend can feel as painful as romantic betrayal because it violates trust, a key pillar of human relationships. In her book “Daring Greatly,” Brené Brown emphasizes the importance of vulnerability and boundaries, noting that when people repeatedly disregard your limits, it’s time to reassess the relationship.

Friendship can be as complex as any romantic relationship, especially when betrayal is involved. Whether your friend’s actions are from a misunderstanding or signaling a deeper issue, evaluating how this relationship aligns with your core values is essential. Toxic friendships and relationships can hold us back, but recognizing when to let go is a decisive step in reclaiming your peace. No one deserves to be surrounded by toxic people, and sometimes, the best path forward is creating space for healthier, more supportive relationships. If this quiz revealed some red flags, don’t hesitate to prioritize yourself and decide to move on.

What is a Fair Weather Friend?

A Fair Weather Friend is a light, fun social friend. This is the type of friend you enjoy temporarily, maybe in a party situation. Although you might share some of your woes with this type of friend, you don’t expect anything from them. You know a Fair Weather is someone not to count on. They would not be the type of person you would invite to intimate friends/ family gatherings or celebrations. This relationship is superficially rooted in good times or flaky encounters.

What is a Ride or Die Friend?

Remember the movie ‘Thelma and Louise’? This is the perfect example of female Ride or Die Friendship. Closer than some family members, a Ride or Die Friendship is a relationship of besties (best buddies). Closer than sister, this friend will walk the ends of the earth with you.

Can you be Attracted to Your Friend?

Yes! There is always a reason why you are attracted to someone and want to cultivate a friendship. It could be a sense of humour, personality, chemistry, or whatever; the root of friendship starts with something both people find magnetic, attractive, or appealing. There is something likeable that the other wants to spend time with. However it’s important to start the conversation early if there are any intense feelings. Most great romantic relationships start off with a good friendship base.

Can you be Friends with Your Ex?

Yes, friendships with ex-lovers can be the strongest ones. It’s important to note that it isn’t always possible to be friends after the relationship is over. The sooner you give each other some space, the quicker you can rebuild a friendship. A part of being a good friend is respecting and recognising that your ex might not want to be friends; that is fine, too. Being a good friend is knowing when to let go.

What do you do if your Friend wants to be more?

Communication is vital in any relationship, whether it’s friendship or more. Be very clear at the start and consistently if you are uncomfortable. A good friend will respect you and change tact or give you some space. If a friend gaslights you and makes you feel uncool for speaking up, then you will have to evaluate whether there is some manipulation at play.